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How to find Love

How to find love Love is at your centre, your very core. There you go, I gave you the answer right at the beginning! For, no, this is not a piece about dating, or tips on falling in love...but please keep reading. True to my purpose to investigate and uncover what lies beneath, this is about the roots of love. It's about going back to what needs to happen before you can extend unconditional love to another human being (through choice rather than biology). This is about the underlying cause of why love is missing, and the original source of self love. This is about the energy of love. Where do you feel love? You don’t even need to think about the answer do you? Did your hand stray to the middle of your chest? Did you re-live that feeling of fullness, of goodness bursting out that you have when you’re so happy in the company of those you love? Or perhaps, what came back instead was the ache, the heaviness, the emptiness that you feel when something makes you sad, or lonely, or hurt. Those imprinted feelings that you have. In your heart. I wonder if you know these things about your heart: Your heart was formed and began beating in your mother's womb before your brain developed. It has its own nervous system, consisting of around 40 thousand

How to Relax – 15 ideas to help you

Just an easy one for this month’s blog! But in all seriousness, really the main reason that people end up in front of me in my Holistic Health & Wellbeing studio is that they have a problem with relaxation. When you don’t relax and you’re in a constant state of stress your brain thinks your life is in danger and your sympathetic nervous system (fight, flight, freeze) remains in charge. When your parasympathetic nervous system (rest, digest, be) does not get its shift being boss, certain parts of you will go on strike because they never get a break. Yep I brought this up last Blog as well (Boost your Self Confidence). I believe that the chronic activation of the sympathetic nervous system is a massive health problem in the modern western world. And that was before Covid-19! A global pandemic makes it pretty darn hard for anyone to relax, even if they are normally pretty chill! It’s the lack of control and the great unknown of all aspects of our future lives, nothing able to be planned, nothing to look forward to… What happens when you don’t relax enough Well you remain in a state of freeze, fight or flight, almost permanently! This means that: your blood pressure stays up your digestive system does not work well your heart rate remains elevated blood flow to everything other than skeletal muscles

Boost Self Confidence and take back Control of your Life

In world where it is so easy to constantly compare yourself to others and the ‘ideal’ portrayed online, it is pretty common to spend a lot of time feeling like you are coming up short. Unfortunately the human brain is designed to focus on the negative 2.5 times more than it focuses on the positive. This is a protective mechanism. The brains of our ancestors were designed around their need to be constantly aware of potential physical dangers and react accordingly to enable the survival of the species. Now, the reality is that if you don’t have as many followers, or as many likes, or as many photos of your “amazing” family posted for the whole world to see, your life will not end, you will not be physically maimed, but the way your mind and body react to this situation is the same. Your brain thinks you are ‘in danger’. It sends stress response signals to your body, preparing it for fight or flight. The same is true when the 24 hour news cycle gives you a stream of negative information, especially during a global pandemic. Added to which there are indeed tangible physical dangers that your brain has to compute – the virus, the restriction of freedom, the potential loss of income and all the add on impacts of that which actually can impact your physical survival. At

How to get more Energy from Food

Here at Evenstar Wellbeing I’m all about energy, and food is the energy that we consciously and deliberately put into our bodies.  It is literally fuel for living, for every aspect of our lives.  So, if you enjoy living a good life, or you’d like to live a better one, the number one action that you can take is to pay attention to what you are fuelling your body, and your life, with.  It’s a sad fact that many people in the modern western world treat their motor vehicles better than they do their human vehicles! Whole Foods The simplest thing to keep in mind when deciding to focus on your food energy is to eat food.  Yep, simply eat food.  Don’t put things into your body that are in fact ‘food-like’ substances (ie. highly processed, packaged products) that we’ve been conditioned over the last few decades to think of as food.  Your body actually doesn’t know what to do with a fuel source that it doesn’t recognise.  How do you know if something you’re putting in your mouth is food? Ask yourself, is it something that your ancestors, even as little time ago as your grandparents, would recognise as food?  A whole food is something that is grown on planet earth – either plant or animal - and you could walk into a farm and touch it with your

Creation Energy – Emotions and Creativity

Creation Energy is the second type of energy that I work with (there are 7 in total).  To find out more about the first energy type – Foundation Energy – check out the Blog here. Creation Energy is the one that underlies everything in our emotional lives: partnerships and close relationships with other beings fully engaging with the whole range of emotions in the human experience the expression of our creativity. This energy is the one that pertains to the continuation of humanity through our innate ability to create new life and is sometimes called our ‘sexual’ energy.  It fully develops in the second decade of life, during which we become sexual beings, after going through puberty. Letting the full range of human emotion flow through our lives is not something that is valued, encouraged or celebrated in western society and so this energy is one that many people are somewhat lacking in. The equivalent vibration to Creation Energy in colour is Orange and the equivalent elemental substance is water, and thus this energy is strongly connected to the moon and lunar cycles. You may need more Creation Energy if you feel: That you don’t have the right relationships in your life: close, nourishing relationships are missing or mimicked by relationships that are in fact toxic and take your energy.  You may find simply making friends quite difficult, and feel

The Magic of Movement

One of the 5 aspects of Evenstar 5 Star Wellbeing is Movement. I prefer the word ‘movement’ to the word ‘exercise’ for numerous reasons, not least of all because the word ‘exercise’ seems to polarise people into 2 groups - Those who love it and can’t live without it, and Those who hate it and see it one of life’s many evils that they try to ignore as much as possible. Also the fact is that the human body is designed to move. It’s not necessarily designed to do 5 HIIT classes a week but it’s definitely not designed to sit at a desk 8 hours a day and sit in a car or on a train for 1 hour either side of that. One of the many problems with the modern western lifestyle is that it involves very little movement and as a result the population is becoming more and more unhealthy, with lifestyle factors a major contributor to increasing chronic disease levels. As I write this, we are in the midst (well really just the beginning according to the experts) of the COVID-19 Pandemic and this is having a huge impact on human movement. Many, many people are being asked or required to #stayhome. Gyms, sports clubs and even playgrounds have been closed. From what I observe in my local area I see MANY more people than

Foundation Energy – The Root of Immunity and Getting Your Energy and Balance Back

So many of you have told me that you’d just like to get your energy and balance back and that was before we were hit with a global pandemic! Writing this in March 2020 it was very easy to choose to bring a focus to the first type of energy – and one that many people do need to replenish anyway – Foundation Energy. This energy forms the basis of everything in physical life: the body safety and security sense of belonging. It relates to our fundamental need and ability to survive and forms the basis on which all other aspects of our life – creativity, emotions, power, self worth, love, truth, insight and connection - develop. As such, it is the Foundation Energy to which we need to pay attention in matters of immunity. Even if you have a beautifully balanced and intact Foundation – be extremely grateful because you are in the minority – at this time in human existence when we face a pandemic that in big ways or small, will affect us all. If you do nothing else, pay attention and give your Foundation Energy some thought and some love. You may need more Foundation Energy if you feel: Unsafe: I think that most people feel this at least to some extent at the moment. I am a very calm, rational person but the constant battering

The Evenstar Wellbeing Good Gift Guide – Part 2

Welcome to Part 2 of the Evenstar Wellbeing Good Gift Guide your go to for ethical gift ideas!  Gifts that are gorgeous for people and great for planet. If you missed Part 1 - which covered Perfume & Cologne, Chocolate & Wine, Socks & Jocks and BYO Accessories (eg. lunchboxes) - check it out here! On 12 days (of Christmas) during this Festive Season I am sharing with you, on each of my social media channels, my top gift ideas that are gorgeous for people and great for planet - a holistically GOOD gift guide! I have tried to capture the things that seem to be 'go to' gifts for people that you want to buy something fairly generic for.  Look out for the posts on your favourite social media platform.  The details of what each of my suggestions are, where you can get these products, and most importantly how to access a discount (where available) are here on the Blog.   Please note, that other than my recommendation for DoTerra Essential Oils (in #7 Candles & Aromatherapy), I do not have any affiliation with the products or companies I am recommending and get no financial reward for my recommendation.  Where I have personally used a product myself I will give that as my first recommendation, otherwise I am passing on recommendations from other sources in whom I have complete

The Evenstar Wellbeing Good Gift Guide – Part 3

Welcome to Part 3 of the Evenstar Wellbeing Good Gift Guide your go to for ethical gift ideas!  Gifts that are gorgeous for people and great for planet. If you missed Part 1 - which covered Toys, Pampering, Candles & Aromatherapy and Pyjamas & Accessories - check it out here! If you missed Part 2 - which covered Perfume & Cologne, Chocolate & Wine, Socks & Jocks and BYO Accessories (eg. lunchboxes) - check it out here! On 12 days (of Christmas) during this Festive Season I am sharing with you, on each of my social media channels, my top gift ideas that are gorgeous for people and great for planet - a holistically GOOD gift guide! I have tried to capture the things that seem to be 'go to' gifts for people that you want to buy something fairly generic for.  Look out for the posts on your favourite social media platform.  The details of what each of my suggestions are, where you can get these products, and most importantly how to access a discount (where available) are here on the Blog.   Please note, that other than my recommendation for an Evenstar Wellbeing voucher (in #12 Vouchers), I do not have any affiliation with the products or companies I am recommending and get no financial reward for my recommendation.  Where I have personally used a product myself I

The Evenstar Wellbeing Good Gift Guide – Part 1

Welcome to the Evenstar Wellbeing Good Gift Guide!  Gifts that are gorgeous for people and great for planet. On 12 days (of Christmas) during this Festive Season I will share with you, on each of my social media channels, my top tips for buying gifts that are gorgeous for people and great for planet - a holistically GOOD gift guide! I have tried to capture the things that seem to be 'go to' gifts for people that you want to buy something fairly generic for because, well, because a multitude of possible reasons! Look out for the posts on your favourite social media platform.  The details of what each of my suggestions are, where you can get these products, and most importantly how to access a discount (where available) will be here on the Blog.  Please note, that other than my very first recommendation, for DoTerra Essential Oils, I do not have any affiliation with the products or companies I am recommending and get no financial reward for my recommendation.  Where I have personally used a product myself I will give that as my first recommendation, otherwise I am passing on recommendations from other sources in whom I have complete trust and respect. I'd like to acknowledge the wonderful Alexx at Low Tox Life for providing access to the discount codes. I will capture 4 posts per Good Gift Guide

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