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Misconceptions about Miscarriage

I wrote this in this week after Mother’s Day because I wanted to acknowledge those women who have found that conceiving and giving birth to a child is not necessarily an easy thing. You may have experienced the very difficult birth of a now healthy child or you may have lost a child during birth, or you may have lost a child before it was even born through miscarriage. All of these experiences are traumatizing. Literally, this is a trauma that will remain a part of your story for the rest of your life. I know because I have been there myself. I had 3 miscarriages in total, two before my now oldest son was born and one in between my two ‘successful’ pregnancies, when I was trying to fall pregnant for the second time. I was lucky in that my losses came very early, all within the first trimester. For the first two I was overseas – the first one happened in China and the second in the UK. When I had my second miscarriage my then husband was all the way back in Australia for work, but luckily my brother and his new wife were living in Scotland so they took the train down to London to be with me. I think that the biggest problem with miscarriage or stillbirth is that not only are you grieving a loss for

By Arwen Perrie|May 28th, 2018|Benefits of Aromatherapy, Benefits of Reiki, Essential Oils, Grief|0 Comments

Letting go of the old to make room for the new

You may think on a conscious level that you're over something that caused you sadness, anguish, fury or frustration and yet change is just not happening in your life? The problem is that often we hold onto the past on an unconscious and cellular level and whilst this is happening there is just no room for new positivity to move in as a replacement! Heart Chakra I wrote this Blog in the week that had Valentine’s Day, rapidly followed by the New Moon Solar Eclipse and thus was a big week for heart energy. The heart chakra (one of the 7 energy centres found at all levels of the body – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) is the fourth chakra and is commonly recognised as the energetic centre of love. This refers to your ability to both give and receive love. What is less commonly known though, is that the heart chakra is also strongly associated with your ability to let things go. To let go of people, situations or things that no longer serve you. This is all about letting go once you have processed your sadness, grief, and/ or anger on a conscious level. (For more information about dealing with grief check out my Blog on that topic.) New Moon New Moons are always about sowing new seeds, putting things in place to make change. But of course it

By Arwen Perrie|March 12th, 2018|Benefits of Reiki, Managing Anxiety, Reiki and Wellbeing, Stress Management, Uncategorized, Wellbeing|0 Comments

Moving on from Grief and breaking the cycle of negative energy

Moving on from grief and breaking the cycle of negative energy Throughout life we all experience grief. There are a multitude of reasons why this can be so. You may have a loved one die or become seriously ill, you may lose a pet, you may have to move on from a job, a place or a group of people that have been a big part of your life for a long time. The risk of not dealing with grief appropriately is that the emotion takes over your life and creates a cycle of negative energy where you stop looking after yourself and become unable to let go of the sadness and loss, risking mental of physical illness. How can you deal well with grief? Give yourself time. Grieving is not a 24 hour virus, you will need to journey through the 5 stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) over a period of time. This will vary from person to person but can be weeks, through to months, or even longer. It is important to allow yourself to actually feel sad and to be able to express this, so make sure that you are giving yourself the opportunity to do so. Don’t rush back to work after bereavement leave, forcing yourself to be in a situation where you need to be professional and action-orientated rather than allowing

By Arwen Perrie|October 27th, 2017|Benefits of Reiki, Uncategorized|0 Comments