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Misconceptions about Miscarriage

I wrote this in this week after Mother’s Day because I wanted to acknowledge those women who have found that conceiving and giving birth to a child is not necessarily an easy thing. You may have experienced the very difficult birth of a now healthy child or you may have lost a child during birth, or you may have lost a child before it was even born through miscarriage. All of these experiences are traumatizing. Literally, this is a trauma that will remain a part of your story for the rest of your life. I know because I have been there myself. I had 3 miscarriages in total, two before my now oldest son was born and one in between my two ‘successful’ pregnancies, when I was trying to fall pregnant for the second time. I was lucky in that my losses came very early, all within the first trimester. For the first two I was overseas – the first one happened in China and the second in the UK. When I had my second miscarriage my then husband was all the way back in Australia for work, but luckily my brother and his new wife were living in Scotland so they took the train down to London to be with me. I think that the biggest problem with miscarriage or stillbirth is that not only are you grieving a loss for

By Arwen Perrie|May 28th, 2018|Benefits of Aromatherapy, Benefits of Reiki, Essential Oils, Grief|0 Comments

Moving on from Grief and breaking the cycle of negative energy

Moving on from grief and breaking the cycle of negative energy Throughout life we all experience grief. There are a multitude of reasons why this can be so. You may have a loved one die or become seriously ill, you may lose a pet, you may have to move on from a job, a place or a group of people that have been a big part of your life for a long time. The risk of not dealing with grief appropriately is that the emotion takes over your life and creates a cycle of negative energy where you stop looking after yourself and become unable to let go of the sadness and loss, risking mental of physical illness. How can you deal well with grief? Give yourself time. Grieving is not a 24 hour virus, you will need to journey through the 5 stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) over a period of time. This will vary from person to person but can be weeks, through to months, or even longer. It is important to allow yourself to actually feel sad and to be able to express this, so make sure that you are giving yourself the opportunity to do so. Don’t rush back to work after bereavement leave, forcing yourself to be in a situation where you need to be professional and action-orientated rather than allowing

By Arwen Perrie|October 27th, 2017|Benefits of Reiki, Uncategorized|0 Comments

How a Break Up can be Bad for your Health

How a break up can be bad for your health If you have recently - or even not so recently - had a broken heart then this blog is for you! A broken heart is one of the most common reasons that people seek Reiki. When you have a been through a break up you may feel some - or all! - of the following: Sad and depressed about the past Regret that it ended and or time was wasted Anxious about the future Exhausted and often not sleeping well Unmotivated Short tempered You may also have physical symptoms such as headaches, digestive complaints, back pain, or skin breakouts. We have all been there! Sometimes you just need to let yourself retreat into a shell, hide from the world and restore yourself. This is a natural instinct because you intuitively know that you can heal yourself and so you want to focus on this, when nursing a broken heart. However, the risk with letting yourself hibernate from the world, and life, for too long is that you can enter into a cycle of negative energy. You feel sorry for yourself, you don’t look after yourself, you don’t look good, you don't love yourself, and then you spend yet another Saturday night at home, watching rom-coms, drinking wine, and eating chocolate because you didn't feel like going out with friends, and

By Arwen Perrie|October 21st, 2017|Benefits of Reiki, Uncategorized|0 Comments